Life Tip: Don’t allow Tumblr to become your primary/only source for morality. Remember, this is the site which had many people genuinely believe that they can get unlimited chocolate just by slicing it a certain way. I know I certainly wouldn’t want these people dictating my worldview for me.

I know this post was meant to be more of a joke, but it’s actually pretty important to remember.

One of the reasons I still like scrolling though this site, aside from all the funny gifs and pictures of men, is that it does havea very specific niche. It’s a great place to learn about the intricacies of social issues, identity, and worldview. But it’s also a very specific, extreme version of the world where the discussions are years beyond what the media and, in general, most people in the Western World are even remotely aware of. Which is a good thing! That’s what makes this such a unique outlet.

But it’s important to realize that, unfortunately, most of the world outside isn’t at that point yet; you might be having pretty deep discussions on the visibility of asexuality or what falls under the gender binary, but most of the world is still confused that a dude can like one other dude without society crumbling. There is ignorance out there, and I don’t mean that derogatorily, but genuine “I have never heard of this thing or this argument before.” So at that, someone mistakenly using the wrong pronouns or something, an honest mistake for someone who’s simply never been in the situation, wouldn’t necessitate “You are cis trash!” or whatever, because that’s not going to make the world a better place; it’ll just piss someone off and keep their mind totally closed. Learning is key, and unfortunately, sometimes you do have to bend around a bit for the other party to help them learn, even if you don’t think you owe it to them. But in theory, that would result in a better place for everyone, yourself and your friends included.

Conversely, and going back up to the original point, you have to be open as well. Like I said, this site is sort of one extreme end of the spectrum. You can’t know something is “right” until you know why it’s wrong. If you hear the other side and you think “Holy mother of god that’s the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard” then you’re probably on track. But there’s always the possibility—-and it happens more times than you think—-that the other party will make a solid point that readjusts your thought process. Or more likely, you might not agree with what they’re saying, but get why that person may have come to that way of thinking, and see that they’re not out to be a bad person so much as a person with different experiences, misguided or not. And that could lead to learning opportunities for both of you. 

I guess I’ve gotten away from the original point, but it’s in the same area. My least favorite thing about Tumblr is how quick it is to villainize and generalize people who aren’t necessarily doing bad things, and that comes from a lack of empathy or open-mindedness. That may come as a surprise for a site that’s uber emotional and socially progressive, but it works both ways. And that open-mindedness means going somewhere outside of the community and seeing how the rest of the world works. Because it’s a very different beast, but if you really want to make the world a better place, you can use what you acquire here to try and change it. Just, you know, try not to be a dick about it.

Ooooh boy. I just finished reading your post about the Mrs. Officer thing and how there was nothing but positivity about it... and then of course I came across a post with 3000+ notes slamming the artist for trying to profit through animal death and a white cis evil policeman and how her comic is offensive and disrespectful. *le sigh*.


After I posted that I got several messages from people who seemed intent on pooping all over a positive thing that made lots of people happy. It was almost like they felt too many people were happy and enjoying something and they had to put a stop to that. 

They made assumptions about the artist saying she was a white heterosexual queerphobic racist american. They based this off mostly speculation and one anonymous message sent to an obscure tumblr. It turns out she is a bisexual person of color from Mexico. It only took me five minutes of searching her blog to learn this. 

Her URL was problematic and I certainly think that was a mistake. I think it was used in the “South Park” way and not the “I’m a bigot” way. I personally think it should not be used in any way and that it was definitely a poor choice, but from what I can tell, she realizes that now and is trying to apologize for it. Not everyone is great at expressing themselves, and if english isn’t your first language, that might make it even harder. 

I’m usually pretty supportive of the social justice here on tumblr. There are amazing people truly making a difference. I’ve learned so much about my own problematic thinking and I believe I am a better person because of it. The majority just want to educate and help people follow a more righteous path. 

But there are a few folks that turn social justice into a game. They hunt for problematic things like a hobby. They ignore context, they make assumptions based on questionable information, and not enough people verify what has been said is actually true. They just hit reblog and spread the word. This hurts the integrity of social justice and the power of the movement to change minds and hearts. It is important to verify information for yourself before you make such a profound judgment on someone’s character. 

A one strike policy is not always the way to go. Assessing a person’s character and intentions requires viewing a pattern of behavior over a longer period of time. We are all going to do dumb things. The true measure of one’s character is how they atone for said dumb things. 

There are certainly unforgivable acts, but I don’t think this was one of them. I’m giving her a chance because all of my instincts tell me that she is a good person who chose a dumb url. I think she is sorry and I choose to keep following her. I’m not a very cynical person and I always want to believe the best in people. That they can learn and grow. Sometimes I’m wrong, but I still prefer to give people a chance. 

"A one strike policy is not always the way to go. Assessing a person’s character and intentions requires viewing a pattern over a longer period of time. We are all going to do dumb things. The true measure of one’s character is how they atone for said dumb things. "

Fucking thank you.



if you’re 20+ years old why are you still on tumblr 

excuse me bitch the internet is for adults go back to your playpen

I was already over 20 when I joined Tumblr. Does that…make me some kind of legendary creature that transcends the laws of space and time in the Tumblrverse?

The few seconds before I send a reply to an ask when I toggle my mouse between “Publish” and “Answer Privately” making sure I don’t click the wrong button is the most nervewracking experience of my internet life.



The Life and Times of Tumblr Jesus by Clinton James

aka “The Greatest Story Ever Reblogged”

This is hilarious. There are more at Slacktory.com, and they’re even funnier. 

Person: I think I'm gonna get a Tumblr, so I can talk about TV shows and books and movies I like and find pictures for them. Just to have fun and escape the crap in the real world and have fun on the internet!
Tumblr: RACISM
Tumblr: SEXISM
Person: Ok.

I can’t…I just can’t…






Let this be a thing.

Why is this man so brilliant?

I laughed and went to reblogthen I saw it was donald glover and flipped shitthink I’m developing a man-crush whoops

Those tags…you imply that having any type of crush on Donald Glover is a bad thing.

oh most definitely not

he’s rad as fuck

he’s like the second coming of christ or something idek 

The Dark Knight Rises and The Avengers look like they’re going to suck.
Murder Victim on Tumblr.

Dear all the big hairy nerdy guys I follow on Twitter and Tumblr:

You are wonderful and you make me happy. Don’t ever change.

Love, Derek

Dearest gifbomblady,

In response to the tons of annoying scam related spam recently cluttering your dashboard, we have teamed up with other scammers to ACTUALLY SPAM YOU WITH MORE FAKE SCAMS! Under the condition that you agree to “click” the fake link, you will allow all your personal information to be sent to some guy in Nigeria.

So, in a nutshell..

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Because we care about scammers.

Note: only the first 1,000,000 suckers may take part in this promotion, which is on a first come first scammed basis.

Oh, and don’t be greedy. “Publish” and reblog away! Share the identification theft!


ICYMI last night, a new blog post of mine went up!  It references and links to a couple of Tumblrs I follow, so who knows…maybe it’s you?  ;)

(Also shout out to drmcawesome, she reblogs my pimpings every time!)

'Tis the season for Lent, which means for a little while there might be a surplus of chocolate, soda, and masturbation.  But here in the 21st century, more and more people might be giving up social networking—which, if that's what you're giving up in the name of God or The Doctor or whoever, that probably means it qualifies as a big deal.  No doubt you've heard the constant debates over how social media is changing our culture for better or worse, though usually people say it’s for the worse.  I’ll take a wild guess and say you, the reader, have a Facebook, Tumblr, Twitter, or some other knock-off like that “FriendZone” site the college kids are always talking about.


I can’t really argue for the negative effects it has on society—just a quick glance at Twitter will prove that people are really, really stupid.  But there are ways to have these pages to share and connect with people, and even use them quite a lot, without plunging your social life down the toilet and giving in to Skynet.  I’m certainly not saying I’m the absolute perfect social media user myself.  But I don’t feel an overwhelming sense of disillusionment or stress because of it.I’d like to think I’ve learned enough from my good and bad internet experiences—as well as creepily observing everyone else—to say that I at the very least don’t use it badly (anymore.)

 It was 2006, okay?!

What I’mwriting about is based on what a comedian I follow on Tumblr (oh hay social networking) said: “If you think Facebook is annoying, you have annoying friends. If you think Facebook is shallow, you have shallow friends. Whatever you think about Facebook, that is a direct reflection of your friends. OR…you are using Facebook wrong.”  I’d argue this could work as the basis for the internet as a whole—that how you view it is a direct correlation to the environment you’re in and how you use it.  If you think the social networking realm is a shallow, narcissistic, drama-producing life-ruiner machine, read on and see why it probably means you’re doing it wrong.

Read the article on my blog!