Life Tip: Don’t allow Tumblr to become your primary/only source for morality. Remember, this is the site which had many people genuinely believe that they can get unlimited chocolate just by slicing it a certain way. I know I certainly wouldn’t want these people dictating my worldview for me.
I know this post was meant to be more of a joke, but it’s actually pretty important to remember.
One of the reasons I still like scrolling though this site, aside from all the funny gifs and pictures of men, is that it does havea very specific niche. It’s a great place to learn about the intricacies of social issues, identity, and worldview. But it’s also a very specific, extreme version of the world where the discussions are years beyond what the media and, in general, most people in the Western World are even remotely aware of. Which is a good thing! That’s what makes this such a unique outlet.
But it’s important to realize that, unfortunately, most of the world outside isn’t at that point yet; you might be having pretty deep discussions on the visibility of asexuality or what falls under the gender binary, but most of the world is still confused that a dude can like one other dude without society crumbling. There is ignorance out there, and I don’t mean that derogatorily, but genuine “I have never heard of this thing or this argument before.” So at that, someone mistakenly using the wrong pronouns or something, an honest mistake for someone who’s simply never been in the situation, wouldn’t necessitate “You are cis trash!” or whatever, because that’s not going to make the world a better place; it’ll just piss someone off and keep their mind totally closed. Learning is key, and unfortunately, sometimes you do have to bend around a bit for the other party to help them learn, even if you don’t think you owe it to them. But in theory, that would result in a better place for everyone, yourself and your friends included.
Conversely, and going back up to the original point, you have to be open as well. Like I said, this site is sort of one extreme end of the spectrum. You can’t know something is “right” until you know why it’s wrong. If you hear the other side and you think “Holy mother of god that’s the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard” then you’re probably on track. But there’s always the possibility—-and it happens more times than you think—-that the other party will make a solid point that readjusts your thought process. Or more likely, you might not agree with what they’re saying, but get why that person may have come to that way of thinking, and see that they’re not out to be a bad person so much as a person with different experiences, misguided or not. And that could lead to learning opportunities for both of you.
I guess I’ve gotten away from the original point, but it’s in the same area. My least favorite thing about Tumblr is how quick it is to villainize and generalize people who aren’t necessarily doing bad things, and that comes from a lack of empathy or open-mindedness. That may come as a surprise for a site that’s uber emotional and socially progressive, but it works both ways. And that open-mindedness means going somewhere outside of the community and seeing how the rest of the world works. Because it’s a very different beast, but if you really want to make the world a better place, you can use what you acquire here to try and change it. Just, you know, try not to be a dick about it.